Cheating?
Give this some thought.
During our 18 years of monogamy I couldn't help but notice that many married people I have known cheated on each other. I used to play on a women's baseball team and during every out of town tournament one or more of my teammates and women on other teams would end up hooking up with some guy from one of the men's teams they met at the bar. While I never did, it was pretty much accepted as normal. Another observation is that we knew a swinging couple in our small town and people were aware of their lifestyle and it seemed to be frowned upon by those who had supposedly "normal" marriages. Some may cheat because they are unhappy and looking to replace their husband or wife but many just want to fuck someone else. So non consensual infidelity is more acceptable than consensual non monogamy. Ironic, no?
The advantage as I see it for myself is I can be completely "shallow" in my choices of who I fuck as there are no strings attached. Conventional swinging must leave one of the couple "taking one for the team" I never have that problem. Hung, younger, fit men who wouldn't date me if I were single still want to fuck me so I embrace it. While I don't really care what race a man is if he's a good fuck. I have found that more often than not very hot black men have reached out and have been rewarded. Less "goofy" ones too. Greg says it is hotter to check out as well.
So at some point in our marriage we decide to address a potential marital conflict by not only allowing but pursuing my finding sexual satisfaction from men other than Greg yet we keep it a secret from even my own sister as it would be seen as outside societal norms. Even among those who embrace the hotwife/cuckold there are expectations of dynamics and kinks we feel we don't have to practice, yet there Is some expectation of. I have seen pics of women wearing shirts stating "it isn't cheating if my husband is watching" while that is true, am I cheating just because Greg isn't there at the time? He is aware it happens and I keep him in the loop when it does because he likes to hear about it.
Some people practice all the kinks you hear about with the cuckold/stag hotwife/slutwife themes on sites like this and we have had some peripheral fun with some role play ourselves when Greg is casually involved by his presence but it seems odd to me that my just getting laid strikes many as strange. On this site "Does Greg eat your Creampie?" "does he jerk off while he watches?" "Is he caged?" plus all the bi cuckold stuff that isn't happening for us, as we are both very straight. Let me tell you Greg has played a very passive role in all this which I feel is a lot more "normal" than much of that. Not that we judge. I simply have more "urgency" about getting fucked than Greg. He'll tell you it took the "pressure' off of him and probably saved our marriage.
Part of the problem we originally faced was Greg was simply too busy and away from home. At first he would meet my potential Adultfriendfinder "hook ups" with me at the bar and Greg would always be present when I got fucked. Well, since part of the problem was Greg's unavailability that didn't work so within a couple of months we decided I would just meet them in public spaces by myself. If we both decided we wanted to fuck we would pick a time when Greg was around at least for the first meeting. Eventually that wasn't necessary. I could act as if I were a single woman dating. I always told Greg what "went down" (Lol) after the fact, sometimes a week after as I guess that is "part of the deal". It evolved. As we keep telling those who ask us, it isn't primarily about entertaining Greg but my fun. I want great sex from other men who have talents he doesn't and he accepts this. Even when he's home (which he is not 80% of the time) he doesn't always spend a lot of time gawking at me and my "studs" but for "shits and giggles" we do a bit of subtle role playing so it isn't completely boring for him either.
So before you "wankers" ask here are a few of the things we do to involve Greg for fun. Just a little teasing rather than humiliation.
1 Timing it so Greg arrives home unaware and "catches" me with a guy. In the act hopefully but that isn't always easy time but it has happened and is fun for all involved. The "bulls" get a kick out of it too.
2 Greg as host while I provide the "hospitality". Greg has BBQ'd and provided drinks while I take care of the guest's cock.
3 Myself and my "lover" act as if Greg isn't even there sometimes or we do and I tell Greg how good of a "lover" the guy is while I am getting fucked.
4 Leaving the condom wrapper on Greg's bedside table to find.
5 When meeting in hotels Greg will stay downstairs at the bar and enter the room after the "action" has started. I have to admit that waiting for the door to open gives me a bit of a thrill as well.
6 Greg admits he likes me to "ramp up the nasty" and act extra submissive and slutty when he's watching so I do. The guy never complains about this Lol. Greg likes viewing me give head and riding the guy mostly. He says me servicing or "fucking him" is hot.
7 Sometimes when I have entertained without Greg's knowledge "I have been a bad girl" I have given him a blowjob when I tell him as a reward.
So I guess he likes me "cheating" on him at least somewhat. Lots of variations have happened over 12 years. Too many for this one post. I'd think there are many couples who would benefit from this style of open marriage. Believe me Greg doesn't feel "cheated" out of anything.
Kate
During our 18 years of monogamy I couldn't help but notice that many married people I have known cheated on each other. I used to play on a women's baseball team and during every out of town tournament one or more of my teammates and women on other teams would end up hooking up with some guy from one of the men's teams they met at the bar. While I never did, it was pretty much accepted as normal. Another observation is that we knew a swinging couple in our small town and people were aware of their lifestyle and it seemed to be frowned upon by those who had supposedly "normal" marriages. Some may cheat because they are unhappy and looking to replace their husband or wife but many just want to fuck someone else. So non consensual infidelity is more acceptable than consensual non monogamy. Ironic, no?
The advantage as I see it for myself is I can be completely "shallow" in my choices of who I fuck as there are no strings attached. Conventional swinging must leave one of the couple "taking one for the team" I never have that problem. Hung, younger, fit men who wouldn't date me if I were single still want to fuck me so I embrace it. While I don't really care what race a man is if he's a good fuck. I have found that more often than not very hot black men have reached out and have been rewarded. Less "goofy" ones too. Greg says it is hotter to check out as well.
So at some point in our marriage we decide to address a potential marital conflict by not only allowing but pursuing my finding sexual satisfaction from men other than Greg yet we keep it a secret from even my own sister as it would be seen as outside societal norms. Even among those who embrace the hotwife/cuckold there are expectations of dynamics and kinks we feel we don't have to practice, yet there Is some expectation of. I have seen pics of women wearing shirts stating "it isn't cheating if my husband is watching" while that is true, am I cheating just because Greg isn't there at the time? He is aware it happens and I keep him in the loop when it does because he likes to hear about it.
Some people practice all the kinks you hear about with the cuckold/stag hotwife/slutwife themes on sites like this and we have had some peripheral fun with some role play ourselves when Greg is casually involved by his presence but it seems odd to me that my just getting laid strikes many as strange. On this site "Does Greg eat your Creampie?" "does he jerk off while he watches?" "Is he caged?" plus all the bi cuckold stuff that isn't happening for us, as we are both very straight. Let me tell you Greg has played a very passive role in all this which I feel is a lot more "normal" than much of that. Not that we judge. I simply have more "urgency" about getting fucked than Greg. He'll tell you it took the "pressure' off of him and probably saved our marriage.
Part of the problem we originally faced was Greg was simply too busy and away from home. At first he would meet my potential Adultfriendfinder "hook ups" with me at the bar and Greg would always be present when I got fucked. Well, since part of the problem was Greg's unavailability that didn't work so within a couple of months we decided I would just meet them in public spaces by myself. If we both decided we wanted to fuck we would pick a time when Greg was around at least for the first meeting. Eventually that wasn't necessary. I could act as if I were a single woman dating. I always told Greg what "went down" (Lol) after the fact, sometimes a week after as I guess that is "part of the deal". It evolved. As we keep telling those who ask us, it isn't primarily about entertaining Greg but my fun. I want great sex from other men who have talents he doesn't and he accepts this. Even when he's home (which he is not 80% of the time) he doesn't always spend a lot of time gawking at me and my "studs" but for "shits and giggles" we do a bit of subtle role playing so it isn't completely boring for him either.
So before you "wankers" ask here are a few of the things we do to involve Greg for fun. Just a little teasing rather than humiliation.
1 Timing it so Greg arrives home unaware and "catches" me with a guy. In the act hopefully but that isn't always easy time but it has happened and is fun for all involved. The "bulls" get a kick out of it too.
2 Greg as host while I provide the "hospitality". Greg has BBQ'd and provided drinks while I take care of the guest's cock.
3 Myself and my "lover" act as if Greg isn't even there sometimes or we do and I tell Greg how good of a "lover" the guy is while I am getting fucked.
4 Leaving the condom wrapper on Greg's bedside table to find.
5 When meeting in hotels Greg will stay downstairs at the bar and enter the room after the "action" has started. I have to admit that waiting for the door to open gives me a bit of a thrill as well.
6 Greg admits he likes me to "ramp up the nasty" and act extra submissive and slutty when he's watching so I do. The guy never complains about this Lol. Greg likes viewing me give head and riding the guy mostly. He says me servicing or "fucking him" is hot.
7 Sometimes when I have entertained without Greg's knowledge "I have been a bad girl" I have given him a blowjob when I tell him as a reward.
So I guess he likes me "cheating" on him at least somewhat. Lots of variations have happened over 12 years. Too many for this one post. I'd think there are many couples who would benefit from this style of open marriage. Believe me Greg doesn't feel "cheated" out of anything.
Kate
vor 9 Monaten
